“Your Body- Heart messages”
An example of how to heal the Wounded Inner Child & learning about your boundaries
The Body never lies. If you struggle in understanding your Heart messages, and you are attacked by waves of noise thoughts and inner voices, I would suggest you to go into the body and feel.
It will suck, of course.
The body is like a radio station that emits frequency, we call them emotions and they manifest through specific sensations in your body system. The emotion of anxiety, for instance, if we unpack the meaning and observe its component we’ll see that before becoming “anxiety”, the emotion appears as an oppression in the chest, a constricted breathing, a palpitation, a change in your temperature and color skin.
Feel, notice, observe.
If you are experiencing something less of calm, peace or any emotion from joy yo the bliss, it means you are operating under a frequency of some lies and you want to get out of it, the sooner, the better.
If you are in the company of a person and you start noticing that some of your reactions are not very joyful, or you notice that after having met them you feel, unsettled, drained and not on a better mood you were before you meet them… well, you may start to wonder what’s going on.
I had a friend that made me feel exactly like that, every time we had some time together, there was a sort of uncomfortablenness inside of me when I left her company. I guess we call that kind of personalities “vampires energy”, but I don’t really like any label for people, especially for the one we call them friends.
Anyway, after many of those interactions I started to notice and pay attention more and more and I was startled by witnessing the way she would continuosly step over my boundaries and always try to get somenthing from me.
She would ask for favors, money, lifts, help, free hours of my services, and she would do that as If I owe that to her! At one point it become so blatantly evident that somenthing very unhealthy and unbalanced was happening between us that I did my own inquiry. I saw how her behaviour toward me and my behaviour toward her was a replica of my relationship with my mother and I was acting just the way I did as a kid to assure me her love: do whatever she wants, shut up, suck it up, smile.
You see, once you start to walk the path of Sovereignty, you’ll realize that you believe you live a reality, but you are actually acting on a background dream mad of past projections.
In my case, after realizing my dream, my projection, I had to admit that even that, was not the real problem, afterall she was just being her, but the issue was my reaction, meaning that I was allowing that and I wanted to know why and how to stop to do that.
That’s when I practiced one of my many boundaries tests and reinforcements, because as many of us that have had a past filled with some sort of abuse or neglect, we lack them. In some time in some place we learned that to survive, to get love, to be approved or even noticed we had to allow many painful things and we still repeat that pattern today, but fortunately, now we are able to feel the pain.
The heart is saying, enough of this, it’s time to learn about honor and self love, so it speaks through your body and after every interaction with this person, you feel bad. It’s supposed to be.
Now what do we do once we (finally) get the message? How do we make the pain go away?
In my experience, the pain is pushing you toward a new understanding of the situation and yourself, and the heart is requiring of you to be, think and act differently, and until you will not do that, the pain will never go away.
The Heart mission is always one and only, to free yourself.
Im my case, what I did was to aknowledge that I didn’t need her/mother approval anymore, that I was ready to supply that to myself, and I had to increase my awareness enough to catch all my automatic responses to her, and say somenthing different like, “No”.
I also energetically protected myself everytime we had to see each other by actively envisioning a halo of unpenetrable and protective energy for my godd and her good.
It warked so good that our intractions shortened in time instantenously and I felt really light and rooted in my center, un my body.
Then the ultimate test came for us, and she tried to again borrow money from me, and I finally was able to say no.
That was the last time I heard from her. We’ve been friends for more than 10 years. Friendship clearly has nothing to do with time, but honesty, truth, integrity. When you embody those traits, any relationship that is not in the same frequency will disintegrated, and that’s ok.
Now, what about you? Do you have some of those challenging people on which you are projecting some Inner Child unresolved perception? Try to feel and listen to your body-heart messages and let me know where they will lead you.